I’ll tell you mine if you tell me yours: Talking Numbers #discussion post

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Hi!

Today I wanted to discuss something that’s been on my mind for a while now and that I’m curious about.

I read a comment on someone else’s blog and the blogger mentioned that she followed like 30 blogs. I was like….

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I know I have a knack for doing things differently from everyone else but this time I thought I was just being an average, normal blogger and it came as a slight shock because I follow…. more than 500 blogs.

Let me tell you how this happened, you’ll see it all makes sense in the end ;-):

At first I made the traditional mistake of following everyone who followed me, because I was so grateful for the follow. Then it came and went in spurts, there were times that I followed nobody back and then I followed everyone. The next phase was when I looked at the sites and only followed bloggers who read the same books I do. Why would I want fantasy recs right? But then if I think about it, if I had acted earlier like this, I would miss at least two great blog friends this way. The current way to go is to only follow back when they have at least commented once on another day then the day they started to follow me.

So what do you do when you follow so many blogs? I can’t comment on all of them so every day I scroll through the many many posts in my reader and if I see a book that interests me or a post that sounds very interesting, I take a closer look. Even then I don’t always comment. If I know it’s a blogger who doesn’t comment herself on my blog like ever then I don’t put in the extra energy either and I just like the post. In truth I’m already a liker and a lurker so I sometimes really force myself to say something, anything, even if it’s just great review to let someone know I’ve actually read it. I like the interaction though and I also like it if people leave little comments on my blog sometimes so I try. It does take an effort (I don’t mean timewise but just you know to formulate an intelligible comment) but I’m happy to do so for some ;-). Still, it’s a struggle sometimes to do this every day and the more followers you get and the more you follow back, the more time-consuming this is as well but you want to spread the book love and make lots of friends, right? Maybe I should cut back but that’s a very difficult choice to make because I’ll probably have a case of FOMO when it comes to that.

So we come to the end. I held up my end of the bargain so tell me,Β how many blogs do you follow generally speaking and how do you decide who to follow back? And what about commenting, where do you stand, comment on all or only some?

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85 thoughts on “I’ll tell you mine if you tell me yours: Talking Numbers #discussion post

  1. Wow 500! Guess not everyone posts all the time. I guess if people are following that many then it shows you need interesting post titles to stand out in their feed!

    Def less 50 for me.

    Interesting you say about herself not commenting. Most of bloggers follow are female and maybe just a couple of males.

    I don’t follow blogs that are just reviews. If I want to read about a particular book I search for that book but that does introduce me to new blogs and I follow if interesting posts alongside reviews. I worry about spoilers, reading reviews. But it is interesting hearing what someone else thought about something read.

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    • Yes I know it’s a lot and I don’t know what’s best really, follow a lot of people and only comment once in a while or have like 50 and always comment but stay in that same circle. If you want to grow your blog you also have to let others see you (through a comment) so it does have advantages too. Difficult :-). It’s great if you’re so consistent in your choice. Thank you for your comment :-)!

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  2. I am in the process of clearing my followers list. Ive also made the mistake of following back those that followed me. I believe your follow was a result of urangutan librarian’s post about me and my wife’s seperate blogs. I follow you not only for the books and posts you do, but becuase I am now finaly able to live with her in Nederland. So i find it a nice thought knowing a blogger who might be close on the same continent…

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    • Ah it’s great news that you’re moving to The Netherlands! I often go outlet shopping across the border :-). Belgians and Dutch people are very different though but you’ll find that out soon enough :-). They are much more direct in what they say just to name one difference. I should probably remove some bloggers who never interact but it’s just.. I like everyone so much ;-).

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  3. I follow around 50ish bloggers. I tend to follow people whose blogs I enjoy visiting on a regular basis as well with whom I interact. If I would like to hang out with that person, then I am likely to follow their blog. πŸ™‚

    Reading those reviews / discussion posts and commenting is time consuming.. and that’s 50… not sure what I would do, if that number went up as this is already taking up a bit of my time. (Runs to hide…)

    I think ultimately, this is a community where we interact but also, where we create content that can hopefully be read though time. It makes me happy when I can comment / like a post but at the same time, sometimes, time doesn’t allow me to do that and I hope fellow bloggers understand. Because I do understand and don’t expect all of my bloggers’ friends to comment all the time or to read everything I write. πŸ™‚ Hope that helps, looking forward to reading others views as well. πŸ™‚ xx

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    • I don’t hold it against you or anyone else if they don’t stop by every time I post something.. I know how hard it is to keep up and I miss posts myself. 50 seems a reasonable number and I think I do have a small circle of blog friends that I keep my eye on more closely but still.. All the people I follow are a result of them following me but I wonder how many have already unfollowed me afterwards… πŸ™‚

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  4. I actually have to look for this number! I follow by email because I can’t really get my head (or mouse) around the reader, but I seem to miss a few blogs this way anyhoo so I kind of have a list of my ‘go tos’ I do know that if I don’t get to my email every day it fills up something shocking and sometimes I get stressed out and worried in case I miss out on a request or a publisher contacting me asking do I want representation (hasn’t happened yet so not sure it’s a problem;)). I do follow a huge number of blogs where I share even though their stuff isn’t for me, generally because I’ve ‘chatted’ to them online, and actually know of/follow very few blogs that are rom com based … sorry, what was the question again? πŸ˜‰

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  5. Great post! Some days I feel chatty and I’ll comment and read extra blogs, but some days I just like posts that interest me. You can’t do everything everyday for sure. I try to at least share and or comment a few times a week.

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  6. Great post! I think I follow around 200+ because I always follow back people who follow me, (unless of course they look like a spam follower) if I didn’t then I feel like I’d miss out! As for commenting, your one of a few blogs I can actually comment on as I got flagged as spammer (which obviously I’m not!) the end of last year and most of my comments get sent automatically to spam folders but I haven’t got the will to contact WordPress, the last time put me off!

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    • I know that feeling, it’s what I did too at first too and look where it’s brought me ;-). You’re heading the same way, I tell you :-). Oh I feel priviliged that you can comment on my blog :-). Maybe I should only keep my BFF’s :-), the bloggers on the list would keep me occupied enough πŸ˜‰

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  7. I’d never really thought about this before! I follow about 100 and they’re mainly crime fiction based or contain a lot of CF content as I’m always open to recommendations in that genre. I started by following people I knew from FB book clubs then others I came across via twitter. I follow back bloggers who cover the genres I’m interested in and/or make me laugh but I don’t automatically follow back. I start to get a bit anxious if I follow too many people (same on twitter and FB) as I start to feel overwhelmed that I can’t keep up with sharing/liking/commenting/interacting! (I can’t even think about joining instagram!!) xx

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    • I’m not on Instagram either and I try not to follow back on Twitter if I already follow them via WordPress (because that would be double), except a few good friends of course ;-). I have the trouble that I loooove crime fiction but also YA romance so that’s so many more blogs ;-). 100 seems like it’s still a reasonable number though. Thanks for sharing your experience Julia!

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  8. I’m not sure how many I follow but I think its about 50+ (I’m adding to it all the time) and not all are book blogs. If someone follows me on Twitter I look at their blog and if we have books/interests in common I will follow back and follow their blog too. I don’t follow blogs where the books featured are totally not my thing. I tend to spot friend’s blog posts from Facebook first and that’s my first port for sharing but if I find a blog I like I add it to my WordPress reader and I try once a day to go through that day’s posts and share the ones I find unusual or interesting. I’m very bad at commenting because usually I’m reading from my phone and its not always easy to type much but I do ‘like’ posts.

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    • I don’t follow back blogs that aren’t my thing either but there are still remain too many and when I see a new blog that only has a few followers than I’m already more inclined to follow because I remember that feeling and I want to support them a little then. Thank you for sharing so honestly Karen, I think 50 is a good number really to keep it manageable.

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  9. Like you, I followed everyone who followed me in the beginning. But then I had a feed that didn’t really reflect what I was interested in. It reflected what my readers were interested in. Which some would say was invaluable.
    Then I started searching out new blogs. My goal was to add three a week that really intrigued me. I kind of let that slide this spring but this post was a good reminder to start that search again. After all it is how I found you.

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    • Oww thank you so much for finding me :-):-). I already follow so much less than in the beginning but new beginning blogs are my weak spot. I want to support them and their first posts are always so enthusiastic and usually orginal too and I can’t say no. I’m definitely taking a look at my list now though.

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    • Thank you ZoΓ«. I’m happy with likes too, a comment is great of course, but a like already shows they appreciate the post and you know they’ve noticed my post that day. I know why it’s overwhelming me these last few months now though and I’ll have to make some changes πŸ™‚

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  11. Time and energy consuming is right. Even if blogging was the ONLY thing I did in my life, it would be nearly impossible to check out every singler follower’s post AND to comment. Wah. I’d die of exhaustion. In my case, it’s a bit peculiar, since when someone follows Bookidote, they’re following both me and Trang. But we also both have sub-accounts to Bookidote for each of our names. Which means that we have our “own set” of followers that we follow back. People can’t individually follow me or Trang, but we can individually follow people we want. What that does is that we can’t technically “follow back” unless we log into the main “Bookidote” account every day and check out who the new followers are. I personally blog hop those that show interest in my stuff and try as much as possible, if time permits, to read and comment their stuff. This whole thing really does need a lot of dedication if you ask me… To know who is still active, who you should follow, who should forget, etc. Great post, Inge! πŸ˜‰

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  12. I follow a ton of blogs! I do it to share my support for the people in this community that are just trying to make it and share there love of books just as much as I am. I don’t mind either way if people follow me back (at this point there is no way of really knowing anyway). I figure the people that are truly interested in following me will. I do the same as you in regards to commenting. I comment and take a closer look at posts that interest me the most.

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    • I guess all the people I follow started following me first because I don’t actively find and add blogs. I like your view on things and I am always tempted by newbie bloggers too ;-). At some point you just have to be more selective and only read the posts about the books you want to know more about. Thanks for your comment Tiana!

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  13. I think I am nearing 300 at the moment but cannot be sure. I follow through several platforms. I am sometimes a liker lurker also πŸ˜‰ I am not judging, but 30 seems incredibly low. Not sure how involved someone is in the community at that point? Or maybe that thought is based on my own personal approach? Fantastic post Inge πŸ–€

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    • Ah yes, I meant on WordPress alone. I try not to follow bloggers on Twitter because that would be double and easier to miss their posts so WordPress is my main go to for seeing posts. 30 seemed a low number to me too but at least you can be very involved then and read every post.. I have to be much more selective what I read now and I’m sure you do too. Nothing wrong with likes for me, I like a lot of likes :-). Thank you Danielle!

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  14. Not sure how many I follow, but they tend to be book based blogs. I don’t automatically follow everyone that follows me. I do share quite a few posts on a daily basis, I think this is because I read a lot of different genres and many books catch my eye, also those that I’m on the same tour for.
    I wish I had time to be more chatty than I am on all platforms, I have limited time in the day and it doesn’t take long for half an hour to turn into three.
    Great post and also some really interesting responses xx

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  15. I had to check how many blogs I follow, and I follow 136 blogs. If I see a site mentioned a lot on Twitter and we share a similar interests, such as in crime and psychological thrillers then I’ll follow them. It always depends for me how much time I have to comment on blogs but I do try to every now and again. I do most of my sharing in the morning and in the evening when I get home from work. I thought this was an interesting discussion and it’s been fascinating reading other bloggers responses.

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    • That’s a good strategy for following. It’s good to know that I’m not the only one who comments on every post… I do have a pretty good idea now what number I should strive for.. and your number falls perfectly into it. Thanks for sharing!

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  16. I follow a fair few (not nearly 500 though). I certainly make a point of commenting the blogs of those bloggers who’ve made a point of visiting and commenting on my own. That’s just decency (though I can appreciate how difficult this must be once the follows hit a certain threshold). It’s still early days for me though. I wouldn’t mind reading other blogs and commenting on them, even if they weren’t commenting on my own. The only issue is time. Between working, maintaining a strong relationship with my wife, raising a toddler, reading books, writing the blog posts, preparing them, social media … I do what I can, but I prioritise the bloggers who’ve taken some time out to see my own blog before anyone else.

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    • I try to do the same as you most of the time but so many people write interesting reviews though and I want to support them all. I’m really doing it to myself but I’m really struggling now so I will have to do something about it and maybe I’ll start with your method first :-). Thanks for this!

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  17. Hmmm excellent post matey. I currently follow 309 sites according to Goodreads. I tend to read almost all of the posts. There are some I skip on purpose but that is usually the ones where I know I don’t want to read the book. But sometimes I do read them because I like reviews that contradict mine. Also some tags and memes don’t appeal. Due to the amount, I don’t comment on all of them. I do like the ones I read. I comment when I have something to say. There is a core group in me crew that post on me site and I tend to comment on their sites too because we usually have dialogue back and forth. That makes me happy. But if people don’t respond to me comments then that is cool too. I love reading reviews of books so I keep adding more and more blogs. I can’t help it.
    x The Captain

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  18. Lovely discussion, Inge! I used to follow so many blogs (I made the mistake of following back every follower at first too. Haha), but have trimmed it down to around 115. It varies from time to time who I follow. But I will usually follow a blog for one or more of these reasons: a) the person comments on a lot of my posts and is fun to connect with.
    b) I like their content a lot
    c) they read similar books to me.

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  19. I have no idea how many I follow but certainly more than 30 but not 500 haha. I do it similiar like you. I pick out the posts that intrigue me and comment on those. I don’t really have the time to also do a lot of comment back with the people that comment on my posts but often I follow them as well. And sometimes if they comment a lot I remember and go buy their blog still. It is always a bit of a balancing act. I do a decent amount of commenting I think.

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  20. I follow more than 400! and it’s so damn time consuming to go through that reader section, it feels endless most of the time. Before I followed some populars then I did what all bloggers do – follow who follow back and then I started checking content (mostly writing style) and now sometimes I don’t check who followed me. all bloggers I’m following right now, I’m happy with that. I try not to add more because I can’t keep up with that endless reader section. I miss many important post specifically those who are checking my posts regularly. Honestly I have no idea who to follow back!!!

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  21. It’s very hard to keep up with everyone, I try to share posts if I don’t get to comment. There are some I’ve unfollowed because there is zero interaction back I want to get to know other book bloggers, people who are interactive on twitter are good to follow on WordPress cause I know there will be some interaction xx

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  22. I’ll tell you, I’m reeeaaallyy bad at commenting on posts because I read WordPress posts in between stuff I do so I have times where I read a post and I have to close my phone three times during it, and then I’ve forgotten what I wanted to comment. I also always think my comment is… Useless between the so many other comments._. In total, I follow (looking it up now) 40 blogs. I mainly look at what kind of posts they write, and whether it’s a bit in my genres or not πŸ™‚

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    • I’m not good at commenting either but there are some bloggers who always comment on my posts so I want to return the same courtesy. The rest is at random :-). I’m happy with getting likes, and giving likes too though… it shows support and that you’ve not forgotten about them. 40 is not so much but I guess my closest blog friends, who stop by each time I post, would be in that number too. Thanks for stopping by!! xxx

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  23. I follow over 700 blogs, I don’t quite know how i managed that, but I can’t keep up with them, I can barely like people’s posts a lot of the time because I am just too busy. I have moments where I get a free half an hour and I’ll go mad and like and comment loads and I wish I could do it more often, I love blog hopping but I’m an idiot trying to do too much at once so something always has to give πŸ™‚

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    • Wow! I can believe you can’t keep up :-). I thought I really stood out and looking at the numbers, I unfollowed more than a hundred now. The first five or so are hard but then I went a little click-happy. I do plan to add again if they bother to give me another like or comment though ;-)). The majority were not active anymore for months or even a year, a small comfort :-).

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  24. Wow and I thought I was bad with 250+ πŸ˜€ I also followed everyone back and that was obviously a mistake because I ended up with a lot of nekkid men in my feed. πŸ˜‚ On the book covers of course. πŸ˜€ Now I only press follow if a blogger starts chatting with me more than once and is kind/interesting, and if they read books I find interesting. I don’t mind people reading genres that I don’t (except erotica haha) if we can have a nice chat. 😊

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    • Haha, luckily only on the book covers. I think you have a good strategy there that I might adopt too. I cut 100+ this week and I don’t see a difference :-). Mostly people who weren’t active or their blog name sounds foreign to me. I do hope I didn’t cut anyone I didn’t mean to though. I’ll probably add again when they interact with a like or comment πŸ™‚ and it’ll start all over again πŸ™‚

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  26. Great post Inge!I’m totally like you though I don’t know exactly how many blogs I follow.Started by following back everyone,then only book bloggers then bloggers who read the same type of books that I do.Lately,if a book blogger follows me,I wait for them to actually comment on my post before I follow them back.Its easy to burn out with all these blogs so I do try to keep my interactions to only bloggers that I interact with but I can resist reading other reviews of books that interest me.These are the one that I find from my reader.

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  27. ahhh, great post! πŸ˜‰ I think I follow about 350 something blogs… and honestly, I used to interact and comment on each and every one as often as I could- I was ON TOP of things! hahaha, not so much anymore … when I end up with 300 email notifs (I find it easier than scrolling through the reader for some reason) I do a bit of a stocktake… I weed out the ones that aren’t something I am seriously interested in (tags, weekly/monthly wrap-ups, stuff like that – I prefer reviews and discussion posts above anything else) and I definitely visit those who are always there for me πŸ˜‰ even if it takes me time and I am about 10 days late πŸ˜€ I WILL make a point to read and comment at least once a week … but yeah, due to time constraints (work, reading time and actually having a life as well) I am now continuously behind… Oh, I also tend to check if someone posts like 3 times a day- with those I also make my life a bit easier- either pick the most interesting post, or the latest one, just to support anyway, but there’s no way I can keep up with all of that content πŸ™‚ it is what it is…
    But in the end.. I wish I could follow more and spend more time on blog hopping… Truly, I do… I’ve had so many great recs and met so many great people and there are still a gazillion great bloggers out there yet to be discovered… ❀

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    • Ah thanks Liis! I can’t believe you were on top of that! I already struggle and I pick some of the posts, only when they interest me. I do like reviews most of all, and book hauls, unboxings and interesting discussions. If I’d had more time I’d read more blog posts and comment too but I don’t always know what to say, even when I read it so at least I leave a like then πŸ™‚

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  28. I started out by following everyone back who followed me as well! And I’m so glad I fixed that mistake because I was following blogs that were dead or simply didn’t blog about anything that interests me in the slightest.
    I had a huuuuge cleaning session [I don’t even want to remember how long it took me] and went from over 600 to about 200. A couple of months ago, I went through them again and I think I have about 40-50 left? But those are the blogs I genuinely like for specific reasons. Be it the discussion posts, the reviews or other features that are to my liking.
    I don’t always comment though. I really need to be in the mood to comment or the post has to end with a good question I feel like answering – otherwise, I’ll simply like the post and hop on, hah.

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    • That is a huge cleaning session.. I’m sure it makes it all more manageable! I’d also reduce my number but I like to pick the most interesting posts from lots on offer. I have FOMO on great books and reviews. Thank you for sharing your way to go about this !

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  29. I’ve just had to check and ‘only’ follow 122 blogs and sometimes that seems out of control and I can’t keep up with everything everyone does. Some of these blogs religiously post every day….
    Like you, I pick books or posts that interest me and usually skip by blog tours….

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